Ask Dr. kafds

Originally posted by finzEr

death grips have split up. everything seems so meaningless now. it feels like nothing could fill that void inside me.

r.i.p

Originally posted by KarLi

@Sensitiv3 , Brother you don't need to live in Utopia for that.
Our world is not tough and rough , its only tough and rough because we've got the free will to turn it like that.
So the world is not itself rough or tough , it depends on different nations/people and religions.

I disagree with your sentence that he shouldn't be polite and kind to everyone , why? because brother if you are not going to be polite/kind/ etc then others will not be aswell, does that make sense brother? i mean if we were all kind and good peolpe , then there wouldn't be a problem, which means if we try our best to be good persons and no matter what , we dont loose anything its just a short life , how can you compare this life we live about 50/60/80/90/100 even 150 years with the life most believe on the Hereafter for an Enternal "Paradise" ?

My message is that no matter where you are from , how old are you , how rich are you etc , one day we will all die and thats very short time , and we need to focus on what happens after , whats the point of living such a short life?

And i haven't mentioned that everything wlll be fine if you love people , but if you are a good person
and thats what human likes , why would i like a bad men?

Its different yeah , but if you dont pass the message you will never Know about it.

Time flies , and in my point of view god is testing us , so if you are going to be a good person , then you will get good rewards , if you are a bad person , then your life will flash back to your bad deeds.

Have a great night , peace be upon you all.

Seems like you don't get me at all.
I didn't say that you should not help people at all. What i tried to say is that you need to choose whom you gonna help wisely. And you really don't understand yet that our world will never be Utopia. Take a look at our Politics and situation in Ukraine. Take a look at wars and conflicts that were before. Take a look how dumb and cruel people up there are. I think you can't deny a fact that as long as people will be able to do cruel things just for their own benefits, there ain't gonna be any Utopia. And as you can see people doing it for a damn long time, brother.
So what I'm again trying to say : don't try to help everyone because who knows, maybe tomorrow he will backstabb you.

I'ts all up to you, brother. To be kind and polite try to help people and be a nice guy and then go to heaven and be rewarded. I'm not going to blame you for beeing who you actually are. But don't you ever tell me that everything willl be fine if i will love people.

Originally posted by KarLi

@Sensitiv3 , the only reason you are saying those things its because you are currently living in that situation , it doesn't means for Mik0 to be like how you say , just because u have those issues .
No matter Utopia or what ever , we are the same and we will be always the same.

And yes it will be everything FINE if you love People around you.
And i didnt say you should go and help random people that you see , but you should help your brothers and sisters (not only family members , brothers and sisters with my prespect of view = all people in the world so the way you are trying to proove something isn't that valid for other peopl.

And thats why god says , if you help people around you he will guide you to good people etc.
Atleast try it with your heart and believe in it and u will see the results by your self.
I know you will tell me "i tried and i got bad results etc"
well thats not a proof of trying it with sincere heart.

Peace

What makes you think that i'm telling those words cuz only of situation in Ukraine ? You don't have any idea what i've tried and what i've been through in my life, so don't came up with such a stereotypical thoughts about Ukraine and Ukrainian people itself.
It's not about brothers and sisters man. I got your point which is mainly connected with god. I don't have such a strong faith in god, even tho i used to. Now i'm agnostic and my believes are different.
Even despite my words in 2 previous posts you still don't want to even think about what i've wrote. You just keep on sayin' the same : love people and everything will be ok.
This is a one-sided conversation pal and seems like you don't want to face my message.

So this is the way it ends
Not with a hang but a whimper.

Hi guys!

I thought I'd address some questions that have arisen during my absence, but first I want to make it clear that I will not be actively participating in this thread anymore due to lack of time and interest. My lack of interest mainly stems from inactivity, but I also don't want to be guiding anyone through any dark forests that I personally have never been in.

Originally posted by finzer

death grips have split up. everything seems so meaningless now. it feels like nothing could fill that void inside me.

If that sanguine nectar of life is still pumping through your veins after this devastating event, I commend you for your strength, my brother. Death Grips produced music which received a very mixed reaction from the general public, but the group was undoubtedly very charismatic and unique. Their legacy will live on.

If your soul is still a withered and barren relic as a result of the hardships you went through, perhaps Dälek can enliven your spirits with somewhat similar experimental noise rap. Unfortunately they lack the cryptic aggression put forth by Death Grips.

It's worth keeping in mind, that life itself has no meaning, but instead each of us has meaning and we bring it to life. If you're asking yourself "what is the meaning of life?", the answer is staring at you in the mirror.

Originally posted by Mik0

sorry for bump but i'm wondering if this thread still works since kafds is unnbaned, because i wanna ASK DR.KAFDS for help.

Hey, Mik0! I shortened your message for the sake of convenience. Thank you for the question, it takes a lot of guts to talk about these things openly.

Speaking from personal experience, such emotions surfaced when I was vulnerable due to lack of self-confidence and felt lonely and told myself that other people were somehow more successful or happier than me.

I'm not sure if that's the case with you, but I managed to overcome it by becoming more active in doing things that I wanted to do and by not letting myself be controlled by the wills of others. I also joined a gym, which really got me thinking about my diet, health and lifestyle, and simply making it a part of my daily/weekly routine boosted by self-confidence by a great deal.

If you are anything like me, emotions like this can be explained as subconscious rebelling against some force that is controlling you. That force can be external, but it's most often internal and stems from your own mental "blocks". Always be open and honest with yourself and others, and don't hold back your emotions. Don't be the stranger, as Billy Joel puts it.

You are not alone with this problem. I had similar issues, and I know how frustrating or even worrying it can be. It's great that you talked about it here, and I'm sure just getting it off your chest was already helpful, but I hope anything I said was too.

Learn to be yourself, learn to love yourself and don't think you are alone with it. You'll get through it.

Originally posted by bl1zZ

i want to watch porns 24/7 but im at the army and dont have a laptop + not enough money for one. so what can i do dr. Kafds? please help me

It's been a while since you posed this question, and I'm sure it has already been solved by psychosis. Since you are obviously dealing with a severe addiction to pornography, your mind will not adapt to living without it quickly enough. In order to maintain sanity or normalcy, your brains do something quite questionable: they make you insane, i.e. induce pornographic hallucinations through complete psychosis.

If my analysis is incorrect and you still need this type of sexual stimulation, I suggest you either ask for the monetary support of your family and friends so that you can purchase yourself a laptop, sell army-related items in eBay/Amazon for money (I stole a bar of soap from the army and sold it to a war enthusiast for 7 euros!) or find cleaning chemicals, consume them and hope they induce coma and you can watch porn in your sleep. If the chemicals only land you into the hospital, you can try to access the pornographic channels in your hospital's televisions.

Originally posted by liquidi

Ok here is my problem: how to stop being so god damn shy? I can relate to the first post. I only have a few friends but know them only pretty superficially. I haven't never got to know anyone in a profound level, well maybe in the internet. Never had a gf, never really even talked to a girl. Yeah that's how sad it is.

It all comes down to self-confidence, a little social understanding and activity. You need to realize that other people are not your superior and they have their own sets of problems to deal with, too. Even the most beautiful girl you've ever laid your eyes upon has her own problems that she tries to deal with.

To get to know anyone on a deep personal level, you need to be in touch with the deepest trenches of your own personality first. You also need to be able to show those deep feelings, emotions and thoughts to other people as well. In order to achieve that, you need to actively do things that interest you and make you proud. Live your life to the fullest and don't succumb to the pressure of other people's expectations and wishes – what really matters to you is important. I'm not advocating complete selfishness, though, but you are just as valuable as any other person.

Things that made me more active in life were hobbies, getting a job and joining the gym. Getting a job allowed me to earn money which allowed me to follow my own interests without being bound by anyone else's will. It's hard to find self-confidence if you aren't in control of your self. The gym is a great place for actively improving yourself physically, but it also works on your mental fitness. You see yourself develop, you hit your goals, you feel like you've done something worthwhile.

Stuff like personal hygiene and clothes are also highly important. Get a clean haircut and clean, good clothes. It's not just the media of today which has brainwashed us into thinking that good clothes make a good man, but it's also an unwritten law of societal evolution which dictates that members of lower social classes do menial and dirty jobs and thus wear crappy clothes and cannot interact with "higher classes". Make yourself respectable.

Shyness is ok. I'm shy, but I always strive to overcome it with pure logic and rationality when necessary. It works. Shyness often means you're either scared of openness, rejection or acceptance. In all cases the underlying cause is lack of self-confidence, but you need to realize that nothing builds self-esteem and self-confidence like accomplishment, and to get that, you need to follow your own aspirations.

I think the best way to meet girls is through regular life. I've never had a serious relationship with anyone I picked up in a bar. Do things that interest you and along the way you'll find a lot of interesting people. Get to know them and let them get to know you. If you're safe and responsible, don't let anyone stop you from getting out there.

If shit goes wrong and you hit the ground hard, just know that you are still physically fine and you're still breathing. Time will go on, things will change and you need to get up and hear that the birds are still chirping and the Sun is still shining. You aren't alone, I think most people consider themselves shy, and you need to know that you are just as good as everyone else and you deserve and can get anything anyone else does.

Originally posted by Krzywy

kafds, go to hell :)

Thanks for the support!

I hope people can find something of value in these comments.

Good night.